There is an old saying, familiarity breeds contempt. I say familiarity breeds more familiarity! Sometimes when a property manager has served in a community for many years, the lines of professionalism tend to blur. In active, senior communities, sometimes the members never learned, or forgot, boundaries…
I am very fond of my senior homeowners, their lives are interesting, inspiring and encouraging, but sometimes they can be a bit too “feely”. I worked with one committee member who was a coach and once (only once) smacked me on the behind along with an atta-girl shout! The next time, I jumped out of the way of the smacking hand, just in time. He was a quick study; there was no third time.
In senior communities, the boards are heavily male dominated, so my interactions tend to be generally with men. South Florida is a casual place and there are lots of huggers here. It is by and large expected that you will get a hug upon greeting someone and occasionally, the first time you meet someone, and it’s okay… until the hug lingers just too long. Many a female CAM and staff member has had to wiggle out of the “extended hug”. I know we’re all sensitive to inappropriate contact. If it rises to the level of harassment, it is not acceptable. You can and should report it. There are remedies for this kind of behavior.
One more thing, don’t stroke my hair. That’s just weird.
Endeavor to persevere.
Tanoa Lynne Poirier is the Managing Principal at Poirier Enterprises Inc., specializing in the management of community associations, commercial and investment properties, and individual residences in South Florida.
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